Dear VelcroBaby Omble,
Currently you will only sleep within 5cm of my breast (you don’t have to be feeding you just need you face near it it seems) or in a sling (no good at night).
I am unused to having such a Velcro baby. Your older sister wasn’t that bothered- we might co-sleep if we fell asleep during a night feed but that was about it (and I wonder if her starting life with a week in NICU apart from me did that).
It’s totally lovely that you need me so close but I have to be honest it does worry me how close because of the risk of SIDS. I keep the duvet around my waist well away from you and wear my dressing gown in bed with you in your grobag. I sleep curled around you so there is no danger of me rolling into/onto you and I sleep so lightly I doubt it would happen but I am worried about you rolling over especially as sometimes you will sleep on your side facing me if we have been feeding and we have fallen asleep before I roll you onto your back again. We have a memory foam mattress topper within our mattress which also isn’t ideal.
On the plus side I have read “three in a bed” I know in countries where co-sleeping is the norm then SIDS doesn’t really exist. Having mummy breathing close is thought to help remind the baby to breathe. No-one in this house smokes (one of biggest risk factors) and I would never go to bed even tipsy (at mo if I have one rare small glass of wine it’s at 7ish so all pretty much gone from system by 11ish). H is in spare room at mo for work purposes so it is just me&you in a kingsized bed with a bedside cot attached one side and a baby hammock the other side (but you won’t sleep in either)
But there is a dilemma in our house what to do about this. You are 8 weeks old today- you don’t need to “learn independence” – you are far too little for that, also I don’t believe I am “creating a rod for my own back” by doing this (although H slightly disagrees). This is what you need right now but in a few weeks you may change again- after all you only started doing this a few weeks ago and previously would sleep in your hammock, bouncer, Moses basket or cot in a sleep positioner. The trouble is having you like this means I am getting bugger all quality sleep. You don’t have proper feeds when we sleep like this just lots of little snacks which makes for a bit of a crap night for me (plus prob won’t help your weightgain- another issue) and I am struggling a bit with this. I’m not totally on my knees yet as I am getting used to sleeping with you but also I am terribly terribly worried about SIDS especially as I know of a local baby a few weeks older than you who died of it recently. 😦
I guess I figured by verbalising my fears then it might make them not happen. I know I will spend hours worrying about the stuff that doesn’t happen only to be blindsided by the stuff that actually does.
So little VelcroOmble I guess I will continue to try and meet all your needs as best as I possibly can and try and get you to maybe sleep safely beside me in bedside cot 20cm away from boob instead of 5cm but at minute I will always just choose path of least resistance (too knackered to do anything else) and remember the “this too shall pass” mantra.
Lots of love