Dear Angry People,
In my job I have to deal with angry people quite a lot, if I don’t I can’t get my job done. I usually find engaging in a dialogue with them and listening to what their specific issues are, and responding to them with evidence usually means we can come to some sort of agreement and start to move forward in whatever it is we are discussing (not always and unfortunately in some cases I need to get higher powers involved as they are just too angry for me to deal with on my own). It’s something I have worked really hard at, its not at all easy but I do feel it is a positive course of action and moves things forward and wins people over to my work
I do appreciate anger gives people a fire in their bellies to get things done, to protest, to try to change things, but why does it also mean people need to engage in ad hominem attacks on others who maybe hold differing opinions? That doesn’t make me personally want to engage with your cause
anger, that makes me want to run away and hide under my bed. Maybe I am a wimp, but I am a wimp who would much prefer a rational discussion about each others perspectives than an angry rant about why I am wrong and you are of course right. If you are so entrenched in your anger and your views then sadly many people feel like they cannot engage with you and then your angry message which may have real value is sadly ultimately wasted.
So please dear Angry People- try to Engage. In. A.
calm and rational Dialogue. You maybe suprised at how effective it it.
LadyWhoMostlySitsOnTheFenceUntilIAmUltimatelyConvincedOneWayOr OtherButIKnowIAmAlwaysRightCurd 😉
P.S This was partly written in response to negative reactions to this letter but also to the charmers who regularly have a go at me about my dayjob.